So, you lost your job and got a divorce.
Things might seem pretty bleak but this is just the part of the movie called your life where the music cuts on and you go through a montage of getting your life back on track.
Okay, so your life isn’t a movie, but still, when things get their worst you need to find a way to bounce back and break free of the rut you’ve put yourself in. Easier said than done, right? Even though it seems impossible now, you just need the right mindset.
To help you through these tough times and to get you back in your winning frame of mind, here are a few tips on how to get your life back on track after a tragedy occurs.
1. Stop Trying to Be the Person You Used to Be
The first thing that you need to know is that tough times tend to change people and that’s okay. You don’t have to try to hold on to the person that you used to be. You can and should let yourself learn and grow.
Instead of focusing on past you, take time to reflect on who you are now and who you’re capable of being.
2. Don’t Beat Yourself Up
When bad things happen we tend to beat ourselves up over it.
You may constantly think about how the situation is your fault and while that may be the case, it’s not healthy to hurt yourself even further with your thoughts.
Instead, you need to take the time for a little self-care. Find a way to get all of your negative emotions out. Scream loudly into the night if you need to get out anger, sob deeply into a pillow, and don’t be afraid to laugh again.
Also, find someone to talk to. You can reach out to a family member or view here to book an appointment with a therapist.
3. Make Failure a Lesson
Failure is frustrating but it can be a learning experience if you just change your perspective on it. You should see failure as a test that you just haven’t found the answers to or better yet, an experiment.
You’re testing the waters and trying different things until you find a solution that works. You’ll never find that solution if you just stop trying.
4. Focus on the Now
Anxiety is probably one of the most common mental disorders. It leaves you thinking about what your life will be like in the very distant future. Constantly worrying about what’s going to happen ten years from now is tiring.
While anxiety can’t just be miraculously cured by us saying this, you need to try and focus on the now. Think about what you can do today rather than stressing out about all the things you need to do tomorrow.
5. Don’t Hold Onto Regret
When bad things happen you will start to list the things you could have done differently which will leave you wallowing in regret. You have to accept that it’s very possible that nothing you could have done would have changed the outcome.
Like with failure, you need to take your regret and turn it around.
If you lost your job, start looking for a new one that will make you glad you lost the old one. If you get out of a bad relationship, remember that one day you’ll find someone who will make you glad it didn’t work out with that other person.
So, rather than beating yourself up with regret, think about all good that can come from something else ending.
6. Don’t Live By Someone Else’s Timeline
When you look around at your friends who have great careers or are already starting families when you feel like you’re standing still, remember that at some point they struggled as much as you did to get where they are.
Nothing in life is easy so while it seems like they glided by, they really didn’t.
Just remember that you can still start a family at 35, and you can still reach your dreams at 60. Take your time with life and stop living by someone else’s timeline. You’ll be much less bitter this way.
7. Break Free of a Rut
Even if you’re perfectly happy with what’s going on in your life, you eventually will get stuck in a rut. This usually happens when you’re going through the same routine every day. You need to mix things up a little and try something new.
No, this doesn’t mean go sky diving during your lunch break or that you should quit your job. Maybe try a different restaurant at lunch instead of going where you go every day.
Take you and your family on a vacation one weekend to just get away from it all. Just Give yourself a break from the weekly norms.
8. Look at the Things You Do Have
Sometimes you get so focused on getting ahead that you forget about all the things that you do have. So you may become depressed over not getting a job promotion but at least you have a house and a significant other who loves you.
Even if you lose your job you can always go get another one but the friends who give you a place to stay when you can’t pay the bills are priceless.
When you look at all the things you have and become more appreciative, you’re more likely to bounce back then if you feel like you have nothing.
How to Get Your Life Back on Track when Everything is Falling Apart
Life isn’t easy. At some point, you’re going to experience loss no matter if it’s in the form of a job or your love life. It can be hard to bounce back from failure but you have what it takes.
Use these tips on how to get your life back on track to snag a new job or start dating again. The only one holding you back is yourself.
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