In order for relationships to thrive and deepen, it’s vital that people communicate well with one another. Intimacy is what helps keep the bond between partners strong and close, both now and in the long term. Unfortunately, it can be hard to maintain, and many couples lose this over time without even realizing it. If you want to enhance the intimacy in your relationship, here are 6 strategies that can help.
Read Up On The Subject
There are a number of books available that can help you learn more about intimacy and how to develop it. If you go online there are plenty of blog posts, articles, and websites that can give you helpful advice. Lots of the material is free and written by relationship experts. You could make this a joint venture as you seek fresh inspiration and ideas on how to breathe new life into your romance.
Thanks to technology, there are also intimacy apps that you can download to your smartphone. The internet can direct you to a comprehensive guide to finding the best ones in terms of reviews, key features, and costs. They can help improve your intimacy, whether you’re a new couple, a married couple, or having a long-distance relationship.
Understand Each Other’s Love Languages
These are 5 major ways in which people express and receive love: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Ask your partner which are their top ones and then use them regularly – and don’t assume theirs will be the same as yours!
You can use the love languages during conversations or when you’re being physically affectionate to one another. This sounds simple enough but people often get too busy to remember to do it. Show your partner how much you care, in the way that he/she needs you to.
There are many things that can get in the way of a couple being intimate with each other. It could be work, children, television, or day-to-day life that gets in the way. Mobile phones can also be a major issue, due to their constant sounds and notifications.
Why not set aside regular quality time for each other and make sure that you’re uninterrupted? This can be difficult to do (you may need a babysitter!) but it’s important to make sure that you’re both on the same page and committed to making this change.
Express Gratitude For One Another
Gratitude is the quality of being thankful and showing appreciation – it’s recognizing and acknowledging the good in your life. It’s wise to regularly express your gratitude to the other person – for their love, commitment, patience, sacrifice, and all they do for you. Even if you’ve had a few personality clashes or issues recently, there will still be things you can be grateful for. In time, you’ll rewire your brain to be more thankful for this special person in your life.
There are many ways to express your gratitude. You can say thank you, write a thank-you note, buy some flowers or do something nice for your partner (e.g. book a restaurant meal or surprise weekend away).
This means being able to honestly and openly share your feelings, needs, and thoughts with your partner. It also includes allowing the other person to do the same without you reacting or interrupting. This means being a good listener and being able to really hear what your partner is saying. Discuss your physical relationship, money worries, relationship goals, or anything else.
In terms of listening skills, DO:
- Pay attention
- Show that you’re listening
- Give feedback
- Respond appropriately
- Ask questions for clarification
- Summarize what you’ve heard to ensure understanding
- Finishing their sentences
- Dismiss what they have to say
- Offer solutions immediately use Physical Contact
This can be anything from holding hands while you walk to giving each other massages. Physical touch is a way of showing your partner that you care about them and want to be close to them.
When you’re physically intimate with your partner, it releases oxytocin, which is known as the “cuddle hormone” or “love hormone.” Oxytocin promotes bonding, trust, and relaxation – and it also reduces stress and anxiety.
These have been 6 major ways to improve the intimacy levels in your relationship. They can fan the flames of love and keep it alive for many years to come. In return for your sacrifice and investment, you can enjoy the presence of this special person who knows you and loves you more than anyone else.